We moved to our New City in June 2008. We had just started TTC, and the first thing we did upon buying the house was to adopt Charlie, our handsome Black Lab. I was not at the point of concern in our baby journey at that point...just blissfully unaware. One day in July I took the rambunctious little bugger for a walk to the park(has anyone attempted to walk a 3-month old Labrador? Impossible...but that's a whole other story). I sat down on a bench where a woman was nursing her teeny little baby girl. I smiled at her and struck up a conversation..she told that she and her husband had also recently moved to New City, and that their baby was 2 months old. We chatted a few minutes more, and I scooted along with "Trouble" tagging me along. I remember wondering of someday I would run into her again with my own child. At that time, I thought I was very close to becoming pregnant!
Throughout the year and 4 months since then, I've thought of her a few times..wondering if they still lived here and how old their baby was. I look for her when I walk my now well-behaved, mature canine.
Today I was standing in line at the post office, and I looked up to see that she was being waited on at the counter. Once I realized it was her, I looked around for baby girl...but didn't see here anywhere. I couldn't help but overhear her conversation with the guy helping her. He was asking about her daughter. I heard her saying that the little girl is 18 months now (quick mental math told me that yes, that is the exact amount of time we have been trying)...and then she said, "And I only have 5 more weeks with this one!" At which point she turned, and sure enough her big, beautiful pregnant belly came into focus.
I was so taken aback! It seemed so recently that I met her with her teeny, tiny baby...and here she is about to give birth again! When I met her that day I was so excited at the thought that I would have a baby soon!
The thing is...I don't know her story. For all I know, these two children were IVF babies...I just couldn't help but say, "Really?"
And since I've been such a complainer lately, I feel some gratitude comin' on..
Today, I am grateful for:
1. Being prepared for my big Thanksgiving Feast that is in just over two weeks!! That's right, folks...I have never made a turkey, and this year I'll be cooking for 14 adults and 4 children. Needless to say, I started planning a few months ago (that's the teacher in me), so that the few days prior to the BIG DAY wouldn't be spent in stressful chaos.
2. Cold weather - I LOVE snuggling up in front of the fire!
3. My hard-working, loving, reassuring, practical hubby. He is my best friend and I couldn't ask for a better life partner.
4. My MIL and her fabulous Monday night meal, and her amazing photographic skills!
5. Organization and creativity.
6. Snuggles with my furbabies...even when they act like I am smothering them, I know they secretly love the doting attentiveness. I can't help it! M told me recently (as I was tucking Charlie in for bed) that it's time for a BABY, or else the dog is going to get a crib and a stroller!
Good luck with Thanksgiving. I also prepared my first Thanksgiving for a whole house full of people and used the prep timeline from Martha Stewart. Everyone laughed with my schedule, but it was a great day!
ReplyDeleteI have had people "lap" me in the babymaking process...it's hard to deal with. It will be our turn someday!!
ReplyDeleteI too am having Thanksgiving for the 1st time, I am excited and nervous.
Odds are that she just got pregnant the old fashioned way. Which totally isn't fair, of course.
ReplyDeleteThat sounds like a big Thanksgiving! Good luck - I'm sure it'll be fantastic :).
Have fun with Thanksgiving!! I cooked last year for hubby's family, and I was a tad nervous, but everything came out GREAT! I definitely recommend organizing all the recipes and taking off the day before to do the prep work (chopping, any steaming that can be done ahead, etc)!!
ReplyDeleteI'm with Jessica...I've had 4 people 'lap' me now. ugh.
ReplyDeleteSounds like you have your first Thanksgiving under control! You will be so grateful for your good, early planning! Now you can relax and have fun!
Thank you for the incredibly sweet comment on my blog. I really appreciate it.
ReplyDeleteWoo hoo for your first Turkey! I'm sure it will turn out great.
This post really struck me, realizing you've been lapped- it's gut wrenching to say the least...
Hang in there.
We had Thanksgiving at our place last year and it turned out fine. Preparing your first big dinner is stressful because you want everything just right, but it always works out ... doesn't everything usually?? With that said, I can totally relate to you in the baby department. I feel like people who were just pregnant or giving birth are already on number 2, 3, or 4! It's like, slow down, let us have a chance.
ReplyDeleteThere are days when I feel resentful to those women who are happily pregnant with their bulging bellies, but like you said, I don't know them from the next person ... I don't know their circumstances, so I hate to judge ... but it is hard when we're stuck in this rut.
Our pray our day will come sometime in the near future! I know we'll all become a mommy one day ... I just wish I knew when!